Jax and I are bursting with pride in regards to being pagan princesses. That is, we are proud of our blog. And we want to share it with all of our friends and family. Sharing with all family may be problematic as not all our relatives know we are pagan (though we are quite sure they all know we are princesses). Sharing with all friends is a much easier task…or is it?
As it happens, our public musings are focused on parties. Jax and I are a sophisticated pair. Our parties are not keggers on the back lawn, bring your own everything (b.y.o.e.), invite all of your friends (hmm…an idea for Beltane?). Our parties are fine dining, RSVP*, shirts and shoes required. In an earlier blog, we mentioned the guest list will be limited by available space (for comfortable seating) and budget considerations. We also mentioned the list will be limited to previous attendees, in the hopes they will provide feedback on an evening with overt pagan elements.
Short story long…if we tell all of our friends about the blog, but can only invite a few friends to the party, then we may well cause hurt feelings. *grimace* We do not want to cause hurt feelings. We don’t want to be schmoes!
So we find ourselves in a dilemma. Do we brag about our blog and possibly cause injury to valued friends? Or do we keep the blog on the down low and miss an opportunity to share something important (to us) with others? Argh!
What say you blogosphere?
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9 comments
T.K. says:
Sep 8, 2010
Princess Diana may have found it less problematic having all her family know she was a Pagan, than knowing she was a Princess.
Unless you’re in the habit of inviting all your relatives and all your friends to all your extracurricular activities/parties, b.y.o.e. or not, I’d say it was more Schmoish of them to expect you to invite them all to a fine dining chair party.
Brag about your blog. Based on what I’ve read, I feel strongly it won’t have a negative impact on your family, or any of your true friends.
I know a very charming woman who told me recently she is pagan. She isn’t any less, or more, charming now that I know. I’m sure all your family will realize, as should your friends, you are who you are; pagan or not, princess or not. Now if the next time I see my pagan friend she’s had some dental work done to lengthen her cuspid teeth, I may change my mind.
Question: Is one day of the week more Sabbath than another to Pagans?
Jax says:
Sep 8, 2010
Aw, thanks T.K. that’s very comforting of you. 🙂
We do not have a day of the week that’s more “Sabbath” than any other. Pagan worship revolves around natural phenomena, like equinoxes and the moon, so a lot of pagans have religious ritual closely akin to “going to church” during the full moon (called esbats). There aren’t any rules about what you can and can’t do on those days – no “rest on the esbat” clauses or anything, and since it can fall on any day of the week, celebrations usually happen during the evening after work. Many pagans do call their high holidays, like Samhain and Yule, Sabbats, which is an alternate spelling of Sabbath. I also know a lot of pagans who attend a Unitarian Universalist church, so they go to church on Sundays just like Christians!
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sabbath is interesting for a lot of different religion’s use of the word (and idea) of Sabbath. 🙂
RFS says:
Sep 8, 2010
If they’re any real friend of yours, they won’t be the least bit slighted by the fact that you had a fancy shmancy sit-down dinner party and didn’t invite them.
But if it would make you feel less anxious about it, just keep the blog on the d.l. until *after* the party…
🙂
RFS says:
Sep 8, 2010
Oh – and RSVPs? So. Important. Big, big peeve of mine.
Why do folks have such a lax sense of RSVP duty these days? If I’m going to all the trouble to feed you, you better darn well let me know if you *are* or *are not* going to show up and eat what I slaved over a hot stove for (or, as is more likely in my case, a hot fondue pot).
It’s just rude, says I.
k! says:
Sep 9, 2010
I admittedly am occasionally lax about sending in RSVPs by the deadline, much to my own guilt. HOWEVER, in defense of my lame self, if I don’t RSVP, I don’t go. What really drives me bonkers is the peeps who think they can just not RSVP and then they SHOW UP expecting to be fed.
Jax says:
Sep 9, 2010
I’m totally with that. 🙂 I’ve been guilty of the not RSVP before, but then I don’t show. I’m trying soooo much harder to be better about that now!
k! says:
Sep 9, 2010
As for the friends/family thing… not sure what to tell you there. On the one hand, I agree with RFS. I think true friends wouldn’t experience a friendship-endangering level of pique at not being included. On the other hand, a large chunk of your blog is about all the awesome things you’re planning for a party you’re not inviting them to. While it wouldn’t end a friendship (I’d hope, at least), not being invited would be a really big bummer. Especially as you’re soliciting feedback on your ideas and the planning process. If you weren’t included, but were a friend, or a past attendee that there wasn’t space for, it might make it feel like you’re standing in the snow peeking in the window at the party where all the cool kids are. Not a good feeling.
Jax says:
Sep 9, 2010
Yeah… that’s where we’re bummed and really confused about what to do. We’ve already started talking about a party in the spring that’s less structured so we can invite everyone we want to invite!
But as we say here, there will be many many cool people not on the list simply out of our limited budget.
Hey, I have an idea. Everybody!!! Talk up our site!! Help us get traffic and paid advertisers!!! We’ll use the funds to throw a party for all our awesome peeps! (I’m not kidding; we will.)
Charles says:
Sep 17, 2010
I’m not so much a party person, so I think I’ll get more of a thrill reading about the plans and the experience than having to put on shoes. Write on!